The Tranquil Touch Program

Women sometimes express having satisfactory relationships with their spouses but encounter difficulties when it comes to physical touch with their children. Initially designed with an emphasis on improving intimate relationships, this series has evolved and adjusted its curriculum to cater more extensively to the nuances of connecting through touch within the family dynamic.

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Do you love your child/children dearly but:

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• Struggle to kiss them goodnight.

• Find it difficult to hug them hello/goodbye.

• Wish you could occasionally reach out naturally, to show them you care.

• Want to have them in close proximity to you without tensing up.

• Hope to be able to naturally hold hands whilst out on a walk.

• Feel uneasy about cuddling on the couch together.

• Dream of comfortably share a warm embrace during moments of joy or comfort.

• The idea of holding them close when they're upset or scared, worries you.

• Desire to effortlessly express affection, through a reassuring touch on the shoulder or arm.

 

Feeling occasional discomfort with physical touch involving children is a natural and common experience. However, it becomes a concern when this discomfort arises more frequently.  It's crucial to recognize that an ongoing sense of unease in such interactions may indicate deeper issues that require healing.

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The dynamics of giving and receiving touch between adults and children are distinctly different from those between adults.

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From the moment a child is born, the gift of touch is vital and remains an integral aspect of their development. Providing children with the constant gift of touch is not only beneficial but essential for promoting a healthy relationship.

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The objective is to impart to them the joy of connection through touch, instilling in them the foundations of a robust and positive relationship with physical contact.

 

Despite the importance of this, there are moments when it becomes challenging. There are times when a child reaches out, perhaps for comfort or connection, and as caregivers, we may find ourselves lacking the time or patience to reciprocate.

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However, it is crucial to recognize the significance of these moments. Children, typically looking to their primary caregivers, usually their mother or father, need to feel empowered to seek touch for themselves. Creating an environment where they feel secure in taking touch for comfort or reassurance contributes significantly to their emotional well-being and development.

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In essence, while it may be challenging at times, recognizing and valuing these instances of physical connection with children is vital. It is a means of fostering not only their emotional security but also imparting the lessons of healthy and positive relationships through touch from an early age.

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In many cases, women who thought they encountered challenges solely in the area of children's touch often come to realise, upon closer reflection, that they have difficulties related to touch in various aspects of their lives. As a result, I work with each woman to identify the specific areas where they face challenges and hone in on addressing their unique struggles.

BH the results have been truly transformative.